Saturday, April 26, 2008

Mommy Blogging

I read a really great post on The Bloggess about blogging about our children. She quoted from this blogger who was quoted in this article. Or should I say, misquoted.

I find the whole subject of mommy bloggers really interesting. One thing I find interesting is that women who are mothers are dismissed as not having intelligent ideas or thoughts. It's as if somehow by giving birth we lost some brain cells.

I especially liked this quote from The Bloggess, "just because I am someone’s mom, or wife, or daughter, or friend that does not mean that I should have any less of a “voice” than I had before. If anything I should have more of a voice, because I have a hell of a lot more to say than I did when I was 20."

I couldn't agree more. We are mothers. We are writers. Writing serves as a daily writing exercise. I have to write in order to survive. If I choose to write about my children so be it. They are a BIG part of my life and a BIG part of who I am. It's a big part of who we are today as mothers.

No, we are not the mothers of yesterday. We are more educated and in most cases, we have careers, as well as being wives and mothers. In my case I have a career in advertising as well as being a writer. I see my writing as a very part-time job. If I was going out and working a small part-time job no one would really criticize me. Yet, women who blog or write are criticized for writing and being mothers. What makes working a job and writing any different?

I don't spend hours on the Internet. Some days I don't even get online in the evening after going to the gym, coming home and fixing something for dinner, checking homework and getting the kids to bed. Some days I'm exhausted and all I can do is take a shower and go to bed. I imagine that some of these mommy bloggers are doing the same thing. Some of them write for a living and work from home, so yes, they are going to blog a lot more.

But the bottom line is this. When did it become any one's business any way what we blog about? AND if someone doesn't agree with mothers blogging then why do they waste their time reading their blog or articles about their blogging and leaving negative comments. Read some of the negative comments that the article mentioned above generated. Her Bad Mother quotes some of these in her blog.

I love that more women are blogging. I love that more mothers are blogging. It's great to read other women's perspective and to know that I'm not alone in this precarious balance of writer, wife, and mother. It's a challenge, but then again LIFE is a challenge. We are not perfect. We make mistakes and we try to learn from them. We're human. And yes we are women, mothers, wives, writers and bloggers.

1 comment:

Jenny, the Bloggess said...

A-freaking-men, my friend.